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3 ways to avoid the drama and stay focused on your goals

You’ve got a deadline and there’s a lot to do to make sure you meet it.  It’s just as you near the finish line that the proverbial stuff hits the fan and you’re wondering how you’ve ended up in the middle of what feels like the perfect storm!  While it can be easy to get sidetracked by the craziness of life let’s look at some ways to avoid (or limit) the drama, so that you can refocus on the goals you’ve set out to achieve.  By no means is this an extensive list!

  1. Stop taking things personally

We’ve all got personal issues that we’re dealing with.  As much as we often forget it, the world does not revolve around us.  People actions and words are not determined by how you will react to them.  Once you understand this, you don’t get offended as often and no longer assume that people are doing things or acting a certain way just to get a rise out of you.

  1. Separate the people from the problem (or solution)

This one comes from the book by Roger Fisher and William L. Ury titled Getting to Yes!  It’s harder to find a resolution to the problem when you have issues with the people involved.  We’ve all had to work with personalities that were challenging for us.  If we don’t find a way to move beyond perceived character flaws and focus on resolving the issue, we aren’t going to get very far.  We’re not going to love everyone that we have to deal with personally or professionally, but we ought to find a way to come from a place of respect no matter what!

  1. Take responsibility

This is another big one.  It can be easy to put the blame on others for things that don’t work out the way that we want them to.  If we want to move forward and achieve personal growth and awareness, we have to take responsibility to for our part in our present circumstances.  Everything is about choice.  Even when you feel that you don’t have a choice, you’re the one that choosing to limit your perspective.  When you take responsibility for the state of your life, you can do something about the areas of your life that aren’t working for you.

The challenges and obstacles that arise when you’re pursuing your goals are inevitable.  Whether or not it affects the level of success you’re going to achieve, is completely up to you!  Of course, when you want something bad enough and you’re putting your blood, sweat and tears into it, the smallest things can appear as giant mountains in the path to the achievement of your goals.  Stay focused, breathe, and remind yourself of why your goal is so important to you.  Stay committed no matter what.  If there’s one thing that I’ve learned, it’s that persistence pays off and when you look back in 5 years, these bumps in the road will be nothing but a distant memory.

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